The Paradox of Expectations

Rebeka Ratry
5 min readJul 6, 2021

Positive expectations are the mark of the superior personality.our expectations determine our reality.

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Our expectations always impact those around us.

Expectation means a strong belief that something will surely happen or be the case, the act or state of anticipation or looking forward to an event as about to happen. Expectations are extremely influential. An example of expectation is a belief that you will be getting promoted and you should behave as a proper lady or gentleman.

Positive expectations can lead to a more positive life. As we know, positivity is the key of peaceful life. Research has shown that optimists with positive expectations live longer than pessimists. Even if we have positive expectations towards our lifelong, then we have less illness and when we get sick we recover faster.

From where expectations come

Expectations come from two sources:

1. Our growing up years

2. Personal experience

Through our growing up years. We learn attitudes and beliefs about friendships, partnerships and marriage. All this come from-

  • Family and origin ( parents/ siblings/ grandparents/ relatives)
  • Society ( friends, neighbourhood, school or college or university)
  • Social media

We all have own stuffs in life, where we faced a lot of ups and downs. In every aspect of life, we experienced a lot of things. Personal experience of a human being is the moment-to-moment experience and sensory awareness of internal and external events or a sum of experiences forming an empirical unity such as a period of life.

The main thing is, personal experiences are the root of life. Our personal experiences and preferences form us more stronger because it hurts, happenings and hopes. From our experience, expectations are developed.

How expectations work

Expectations are such a beautiful and yet dangerous part of our lives. Expectations are how we hope or anticipate life will be. They play a major rule in how our goals, desires and general life direction are formed. They encompass all the areas of life- our work, our relationships, our career, the…



Rebeka Ratry

Diligent student of Civil & Environment Engineering who also converse over Mental Health, Social Cognition & Psychology